The Binding

"To all boys and girls out there. You can easily choose both (re : marriage and study). Don't let the world think your option is limited," said a muslimah influencer that I idolized very much. 

As someone who's against pre-marriage relationship (dating and such), never does it cross my mind that I'd ever disagree to such a statement. In fact, it is such a relief for me to see that some people could finally decide to tie the knot earlier than perhaps, most people their age (without sacrificing their dreams for sure). Getting married while pursuing their study (even abroad!), why not? I've seen people doing it well, even though it's only the eyes that can see, while the rest of the story may be kept from the public. 

Anyway, as an uhm... normal person, like you, and you, and the rest of you too, I've also put this certain thing in my bucket-list-before-I-die-someday. There were times that I wondered like, "When will the time finally come? How many years left? After college? After I settle for a decent job and get quite a salary? Or perhaps, way before it?" And of course, like (perhaps) many other normal person, asking silently, "Who's that one person? Have I ever met him? How did he come to realize that I'm the one for him?" sorta questions like that which makes things look funnier than ever. 

Hell, boy, I'm not even twenty, and my soul still get stuck at 15.

Perhaps, due to pop culture influence (idk whether this is valid or not, though), people tend to imagine a marriage to be something wonderful, full of bliss, a romantic story where Prince Charming fell on one knee for The Majesty, his one lady. That kind of creepy things from Disney Princess stories. Not to mention the influence of the songs, movies, or everywhere including your instagram stories, which shows pictures of newly wed couples which all of sudden, makes you think that you should be like that too.

I am absolutely against generalizing all social media influencers for driving the minds of the youth into marrying at a young age, no. As I've said before, I'm into it, too, but let's give an underline that young marriage is not for everybody. I make a note to myself that a marriage is far from living happily ever after like those in fairy tales. Marriage a sacred contract, another stage of life which is no different than a roller coaster ride you've never expect to see how it supposed to have run. The thing I know is, that you should understand what you aim for, for it would last for the rest of your life. It's something that you should never be forced for, not by your family, your friends, nor the society. I think, it is safe to say that, sometimes it's not the matter of age, but how well you've prepared for the long journey-- the longest prayer of your life. 

And uhm... while I'm typing this, I could only laugh inside while lecturing myself the same lines. Lol. 

Anyway, back to the matter of tying the knot. I don't know if I still have plenty of time to prepare stuffs but, I think it would be better to get ready tho. I personally still have so many issues to fix, not to mention the responsibilities I should handle beforehand (and when I say "responsibilities", man, it's pretty rough). It's still quite a long way to go, so set your priorities straight and keep boys' issues at bay. Be tawakkal and chill~